Thank you for sharing your fights with us. It’s made both of us feel so much better. It’s made us seem so much more normal. And we’re both happier to be more normal. We’re stronger for it.
It’s one of the particular foibles of being newly married that you go through the same fights as everyone else experiences. You’re adjusting to sharing your life with a new person.
These are fights about social lives, sleeping, waking, doing the work, allocating responsibilities. One side might be working whilst the other isn’t. One might be adapting to a new place and a new way of doing things. Neither, probably, really wants to change.
It is also a particular foible that you think your fights are unique and unprecedented.
You fear you’re the first couple ever to have that fight. And it’s such a fundamental fight that you fear that you’ve gotten it all wrong.
They seem earth shatteringly important. They could even be marriage ending.
The most important decision of your young adult life and you’ve managed to blow it by marrying this person with who you fight all the time.
So it is refreshing when your fiends share their fights with you. You feel so much better. Thank you for sharing.