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“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Dr Wayne Dayer

There is a moment, when the voice in your head says  “I have no idea why, but for some reason I like you.”

It’s that irrational moment when something about a person  zaps out and connects, and you know that there’s something more to this person, that this person is somehow different from the other people you’ve met that day.

And, because life is what it is, things don’t work out smoothly. You never see them again, or you see them every 5 weeks randomly crossing some corridor.

But that initial impression stays with you. And every time you meet (when those five weeks keep spinning their cycle) that initial impression conditions your reaction.

You stop to talk to them randomly, when otherwise you wouldn’t, even though your class started  five minutes ago and your teacher is a stickler for punctuality.

If your waiting for an exam to start, you look for them just to spend five minutes talking to them about what TV shows they’ve been watching during revision.

You join them for a random coffee and find it was more enjoyable then you anticipated , and when you think about it in hindsight, was more fun than it should have been.

That intuitive leap, that split second judgement of your brain, made without any conscious control, decides the rest of your interaction for a long time after it.

It might be that nothing comes of your interaction at all. You don’t even end up friends, but you put in a lot more effort and endeavour because of that split second.

Its something that’s happened to me a few times across this PCLL year as I’ve met various people. Some times its been right, and that little voice’s predictions have come true. Some times its been wrong. And in some instances, the jury is still out.

It’s amazing how that small voice, in its split second judgement, can dictate what path events will follow. How this decision affects our interpretation of so much that comes afterwards. And it’s amazing, how our perception of something, can change it.